Five virtues of friendship
Given the sweeping changes that have plunged our world into a technology-driven society, it’s sometimes hard to tell the difference between true friendship and an acquaintance. However, building trust and true friendship is not impossible and serves us well in times of need and joy. Having friends because they are rich or have the potential to be is not a true friendship. Having friends for the sole purpose of being a means to an end is not friendship. Even for business purposes, it is essential to have certain factors in our relationships to ensure that we maintain true friends that we can support and receive support in return.
Patience is the foundation of any relationship. It is the de facto attribute to gain trust and understanding. Without patience no true friendship can last. Patience in friendship means tolerance, it means forgiveness, it means being able to overlook certain shortcomings while we wait for our friends. Patience is a way of giving without passing on a physical gift. Patience is an investment for long-term reward. The fruits of patience in any relationship are rarely noticed until after an extended period of time.
No true friendship could survive without both people being honest with each other. As difficult as it may be under certain circumstances, the truth is always the best way to go. It may hurt but this is what you want in friendship. Without this, this friendship will eventually end in disaster. Honesty breeds trust and loyalty.
Friendship without humility is a waste of time. Humility means that both parties would be willing to admit if they are wrong in a time of conflict. Humility also means that both parties can listen to and accept each other’s advice.
In every friendship there must be some form of delivery, whether physical, spiritual or otherwise. It is the nature of this association. Even tolerating another person’s shortcomings is a form of giving. This also means being happy for a friend’s success and not just for our own. Giving also shows loyalty. Loyalty means standing by each other through thick and thin. However, it must be done honestly. If this is done correctly then it is giving.
Every friendship must have balance for it to survive. One person cannot give all the time while another receives. This kind of friendship never lasts. There are always complaints either verbally expressed or mentally noted. Balance lays the groundwork for judging friendship fairly. Eradicate envy and jealousy.
If these five factors adhere to any friendship, then it is sure to grow and last.