How to get your ex girlfriend back without contact
In which of these two positions are you currently:
A) Your girlfriend left you and you have not had contact with her.
B) She dumped you, but all post-breakup contact has been initiated by you.
Both situations may seem hopeless. Like your ex is over you and has already moved on. In truth, however, there is always a way back in ANYONE’s heart… as long as you know exactly where to look.
When walking the path that leads back to the arms of your ex, you must tread very carefully. Why in most cases? You really only get one chance.
Knowing which moves to execute first is a vital part of setting up any future scenario for reconciliation. And it’s not just about acting fast, it’s about acting right.
The real reasons why your ex has not spoken to you
Women are emotional creatures. When you dated her, your girlfriend felt some very powerful emotional connections to you.
These were built over time. They started at the very beginning, during the honeymoon part of their relationship, when everything was absolutely amazing. They continued through your courtship, through all the things you did and the places you went. The more you shared with her, the closer you became. And stronger grew these connections between you.
Now just because she broke up with you? Those connections are still there.. It’s not like they can go away overnight, and your girlfriend isn’t some kind of emotional wizard who can flip those feelings to the “off” position like a light switch.
No, to move on, your ex did the only thing she could: she buried those feelings. She buried them fast. She also tried to bury them deep, but most likely she didn’t do it so well.
And this, my friend, is why you have no contact with your ex right now. your ex girlfriend is fear of contact. Why see you or talk to you? There’s a good chance those feelings will break free and float back to the surface.
Your girlfriend wants the breakup to ‘stick’
Every break up has the potential for reconciliation. All it takes is a few lingering doubts, and your ex may change his mind. Right now, however, she is convinced that this is not what she wants. No matter how her heart feels, her brain has led her to think that this is “what’s best for her right now”.
To get back with her, you’ll have to convince both her heart and her brain. This is where most guys go wrong. They believe that by appealing to her heart; by bringing up past history and reminding their ex-girlfriends how awesome things ‘used to be’, they think they are changing their minds.
Actually, their preaching to the one place they don’t need: the heart. To get him to change his mind, you must appeal to his MIND. To change things, you need to go out with you again seems like the logical choice for her.
And the words “to her” are important. If you want a new and lasting relationship, you can’t beg or plead to get back in. The penalty sucks. never works. Your girlfriend already knows you want her back. But do you really make things work? He has to think that getting back together was HIS idea.
This is where counter-rejection techniques come in. The idea here is to completely change the way your ex looks at you, to the point where she not only wants you back, but she’s genuinely worried that you’ll GET HER BACK.
Break contact to get her back
A big part of the counter-rejection process is the NO CONTACT RULE. Many people have heard this term, but few understand how it actually works.
In short, it feels counterproductive to ignore the person you love. You would think that if you want to win your girlfriend back, you should keep the lines of communication as open as possible. All communication would be good communication; texts, emails, Facebook, Instagram… whatever it takes to say in touch.
But the honest truth? The more your ex knows about you, the less they NEED to know about you. In other words, how much longer do you keep contacting the girl who broke up with you (even innocently)? The further away you are from her.
make your ex miss you
Have you ever missed someone? I mean, do you really, really miss them to the point where your stomach feels funny and there’s an ache in the pit of your heart?
Why did you miss them? There’s really only one reason:
it’s because they left.
When someone is totally and completely gone, that’s when you’ll miss them the most. I’m talking no texts, no phone calls, no contact whatsoever. When someone you love, or even once loved, disappears off the face of the planet, suddenly you’re thinking of them again. And the more they walk away (or the more they ignore you)? The more you are forced to miss them.
This is the basis of no contact; make your ex wonder where you went. Trust me, she looks at you after the breakup to see how you’re doing. She could be talking to friends, checking mutual friends’ Facebook pages, or even sending you a text or two to say “what’s up.” But all that scrutiny is not innocent. It is for a specific purpose.
Look, your ex girlfriend WANTS to see you sad. She WANTS to see you miserable and upset. How much longer are you taking the break? It feels better. The more you chase her? The bigger you have inflated her ego.
Of course, the opposite is also true. And this is the principle by which you will use no contact to get your ex interested in you again.