Why does it suck to be a good boy?

Have you ever heard of the term “nice guys finish last”?

I know I know . . I think I have an idea of ​​what’s going through your mind right now, you’re probably thinking “No, that’s not entirely true, I don’t agree with that. Women LOVE nice guys. Women love nice guys.” men who open doors for them”. she, she pulls out seats for them and treats them like a queen. Idiots may win her heart at first, but in the end good guys always get the girl…”

Good for the record. . . YOU’RE WRONG.

I don’t know what rock you’ve been living under for the last five years, but this is the 21st century, my friend! I do agree with you on one point though, women LOVE nice guys. They want them as friends, or as best friends, or as older brothers, or as cousins, etc. . But unfortunately, women VERY RARELY would like a nice guy to be their boyfriend.

Now, before you have any backlash, let’s talk about the term “pretty”. What would qualify him as a good guy?

Here are some examples:

1 A good guy is a guy who appears to be so weak that it seems as if even Hanna Montana could beat the crap out of him.

2. A good boy is a needy, clingy, disgustingly insecure boy. He is so concerned with gaining a woman’s attention that he would do ABSOLUTELY anything for her.

3. A good guy is a guy who is overly available ALL the time.

4. A good guy is a guy who apologizes all the time even though he didn’t even do anything wrong.

5. A good guy is a guy who hangs on to every word you say and then agrees with every point you make.

6. A good boy is a boy who is just TOO MUCH. He is the type of person who would bring flowers, chocolates, and a big teddy bear on a lunch date.

Now, do you know how women respond to nice guys who are just too much? This is what they tell their friends about them:

“He’s so nice… but… I’m BORED.”

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She’s so nice… but… I don’t think she deserves it.

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“He’s so nice…but…there’s just no spark between us.”

Hard to accept right? I know, I know it hurts. . . Why don’t you come over here and cry on my shoulders? . .

I’m assuming you probably got your “super nice guys who get the girl last” mentality from your Vietnam war veteran father and grandfather. Hate to burst your bubble here mate, sadly that’s not how it works in this day and age.

Let’s take a look at four of the most important notions to keep in mind when it comes to attracting women:

1. The heart is IRRATIONAL.

We can’t CHOOSE who we FALL IN LOVE with. I know it sucks but that’s how life works so you just have to DEAL with it. Attraction can happen in an instant without warning, you can’t really direct your heart which way to go and you also can’t CONVINCE his heart to choose you, so don’t even bother trying.

2. Beautiful women have MANY options.

Beautiful women have hundreds of options, that’s common sense, right? They flirt with her in clubs, libraries, shopping malls, etc. She also has a number of close friends who are just “pretending” to be close friends, but in reality, they can’t wait to “move on” with her. They pretend to be the BEST FRIENDS, but what they really want is to be the FRIENDS. That is why for any beautiful woman, every look, every good deed, every sweet word is in one way or another considered INTEREST. Maybe not all the time, but most of the time that comes to mind because just about every guy she’s been in contact with has shown an interest at some point.

3. The heart is ILLOGICAL. It doesn’t follow any rules.

When you think about the concept of attraction, it makes perfect sense that women would be attracted to gentlemen who are polite, well-mannered, and honest, right? But then why do so many women fall for jerks and bad boys? where is the logic in that?

There is no LOGICAL period.

4. Women crave SECURITY and STATUS.

I know this may seem unfair, unfortunately women are almost NOT attracted to men of “lower status” than they are or who feel they cannot give them any security. That’s why there are particular stereotypes, like women don’t like men with no jobs and no future, and women don’t like men who look and sound like Steve Urkell. They want a MAN, not a LADY-BOY.

Now, if I had to describe the biggest mistake men make with women, the one that causes the most heartache, then I would have to say it would be. . .

BE A NICE GUY AND EXPECT HER TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR “KINDNESS”.

Have you ever chased a woman with flowers, chocolates and expensive gifts, only for her to say “you don’t know what you want right now” and need “time to think”. . . what eventually led her to see you as “just a friend”?

Have you ever met a woman and given her a nice compliment, only for her to look away and show signs of boredom?

That’s what happens when you’re too nice. Bottom line? NICE GUYS do not arouse ATTRACTION.

Too much of a good guy is BLAND. They are too needy and clingy that he is nauseous.

Now the first reaction most men usually have when they hear this is shock and amazement because being nice is what their moms taught them since they were little kids. So when they hear this disturbing news, they say things like “But I don’t want to be a jerk” or “I like being a NICE guy” or “I’m just trying to be MYSELF, that’s all…”.

Don’t worry, I feel you Dawg.

Well here’s the thing, you don’t need to be a “jerk” or “bad” with women, you just need to learn how attraction works and STOP being too nice.

Do you know what really attracts women?

GENTLEMEN with a touch of BAD BOY swagger.

Yes, that’s right, you heard me, if there’s one thing that flips an attractive woman’s attraction switches, it’s the guy’s ability to be a gentleman but still retain a hint of arrogance and arrogance. Someone who is not really animated, but knows how to get into a woman’s heart.

I still highly recommend opening doors, lending a jacket when the lady is cold, walking on the outside of the sidewalk, and pulling out chairs. You know, the typical knight in shining armor. Men hardly do that anymore nowadays, so it will make you stand out. Being a gentleman is a great quality to possess, however, you need to let him know that sometimes you can be a “BAD BOY” as well. For example:

You can pull up a chair for him and then say something like, “This whole gentleman thing is a pretty rare occasion, okay? So you better make the most of it while I’m still in a ‘good guy’ zone.”

Or you can also pretend to dust her seat before she sits down and then say something like “there she goes, your highness” and then give her a smirk afterwards.

Or you can also spit out implied compliments like “now don’t act so high and mighty with me just because you’re cute, okay?”

Get it??

Most men don’t understand how a woman’s mind works, which is why they’re shocked to the core whenever idiots steal from their women right under their noses all the time.

Let me share with you some basic facts about men and women:

Most women, by nature, play the “shy” angle. They play tough and want men to chase them. Men, on the other hand, are strong, dominant, and aggressive by nature. Most men are generally considered rough and tough, they are supposed to be SOLDIER by nature.

But then here’s the punchline:

Most men don’t ACT like men when they’re in the company of a woman they’re interested in. Instead, they act too nice and too pathetic, like a LADY-BOY.

Guess what?

It’s not “hot”, it’s not endearing and it’s NOT desirable AT ALL. It really FRUSTRATES women!