Porn Addiction: The Inside Secret A Christian Wife Can Follow To Help Her Marriage

For many years my husband struggled with the bad habit of porn.

Did it affect our marriage?

Absolutely!

Did it cause a deep hole in my heart?

Yes.

Did I blame myself for my husband’s porn habit?

Yes.

I struggled with many emotions in the midst of my husband’s porn addiction.

For one, for many years I wouldn’t admit I had a problem, so for this reason I couldn’t help him. I tried for many years, but to no avail. In fact, trying to discuss it and find a solution only caused arguments and, unfortunately, sometimes hurt feelings.

I wanted him to stop and change and see me as the only woman in his life. Not the women you saw on the Internet!

Through the power and grace of God, my husband finally kicked his porn habit, but before this I often found myself hurting, alone, and with no one to talk to or share my pain with.

However, I learned this lesson: While I couldn’t change my husband, I did my part to work on myself until I saw the results I wanted to see in him. While this inside secret I’m about to share isn’t a 100% guarantee for all wives, I do know that it changed me and made my marriage stronger.

The point of this advice is that personal care is very important. While this means that she may not deal directly with her husband to take the next step, when she deals with herself first, she is working to protect herself from further damage and pain that her husband’s porn addiction could cause her.

This does not mean that you ignore what he is doing. But it is to say that you can connect with a community that can help you grow and heal until your change arrives. This also doesn’t necessarily mean that you should tell every person that your husband is addicted to porn.

As a Christian wife you cannot neglect this advice because it is important to be part of a community of married women who love God and fight for their marriages. I say this because Hearing other women share their stories and the steps they took to succeed in their marriage will encourage you to fight for your marriage in a way that is productive for both of you.her husband and, ultimately, her marriage.

So the next logical step here is to start with prayer and forgiveness. One of the things that she must do is take the step of forgiving her husband for his addiction to pornography. And forgive yourself for not being able to solve this problem. Porn addiction is so much bigger than you. And you cannot fight this problem on your own.

You need a community of strong women who can help you in this process.

Also, understand that your husband’s porn addiction is not his fault. In fact, she probably had him long before she met him. But in order for you to receive your healing, the decision to forgive is mandatory.

Sometimes it’s hard to forgive on your own. I completely get it, but help is available.