The male chastity key holder and his responsibilities
The common image of a male chastity key holder is that of a woman who is in control and concerned only with herself, her own pleasure, and her own satisfaction. And although women like this exist and there are men who enjoy this type of relationship with them, the truth is that most couples are not interested in such an extreme expression of the game.
Why have a…
Chastity keychain?
Because many men seriously and inescapably yearn for chastity. And while that is a fantasy that can never come true, having a chastity keychain makes it as real as ever.
And it’s also true that most men, when they bring up the subject, profess a desire to be cooped up more or less permanently and to be allowed out very infrequently or never, but this is an emotionally charged desire that it bears little relation to what man really wants. of his life as a chaste man.
The reality is that man really wants plus of your sex life, no less. It’s not an obvious connection because it’s reasonable for an inexperienced male chastity key holder to “lock it up and leave it“.
In my experience, this is one of the biggest causes of lifestyle problems, especially in the early days.
And ultimately it always comes down to miscommunication: the man is unclear about what he is offering and unclear about what he expects.
Some would say that you have no right to “expect” anything, though unless you are adopting a strict D&S lifestyle with your wife or girlfriend playing the part of the strict Mistress, then I think this is a dangerous thought for your relationship.
Because, as I find myself repeating over and over again, simply because men who ask their women to hurry up to become their holder of the key to male chastity are missing a few crucial points:
- This is an old fantasy for you, but everything is new for your lady. Until she’s had some time to get used to the idea and get used to playing the game and become familiar with the rules you both agree to follow, she won’t have a clue what’s expected of her.
- If one of the things in your marriage that you want to change is an outdated sex life, then something has to push you both in the right direction. If she hasn’t been bothering you for the last 20 years, it doesn’t matter. Y denying you orgasm at the end, it’s unlikely to start now unless you tell him this is what you want.
- It is almost certain that she has never owned a male chastity key before. And you’ve never been on the receiving end of it. So since you’re both new to this, how can you hope to magically get it “right” from the start unless you’re prepared to talk about it, try some new things, commit, and, yeah? even make some mistakes.
It would be wonderful if we could just drop into the lifestyle as if we were born for it, miraculously going from normal married couple to instant experts, but we don’t.
In fact, the more you read forums and blogs and try to conform to the image of a male chastity key holder as typically portrayed, then the less likely you are to have a successful outcome.
For it to be successful, it has to work for both of you. The only way to know what the other person wants is to talk about it and agree to the terms; and the only way to know if the other person is getting what she wants is… by talking about it!
I and thousands of other women have found that locking our men in chastity is a wonderful expression of our love and a lovely and, let’s be honest, amazing new direction in my sexuality.
However, it hasn’t always been easy, and one of the hardest lessons I learned as a male chastity key holder was that it’s No it’s all about “me” at all: it’s about the two of us, as is our entire marriage.
Look, you will read a lot of hype and nonsense about male chastity, and really what you want is sensible, serious, and realistic information and advice so you can make those all-important decisions, right?
So if you are SICK and TIRED of reading all the obviously made up male chastity blogs and forums and having a strict chastity headline, then you need to get the TRUTH about it from a genuine lifestyle partner who lives it 24/7.